FED.

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Okay. It is evidently no secret that i have been M.I.A for a bit although i have been creating constantly – taking pictures and videos of events which i would like to post. I have had a lack of inspiration i guess, even though I have been documenting. I am so glad that i am not the type of person that FEEDs largely off society and the expectations of others. I just do so much all at the same time and it does get overwhelming even for me. I took a break. I’m back. I would like to be more consistent with my posts from now on. 

I am back and I am BETTER. After a few months of slacking, I feel refreshed, FED and ready to continue what I have started.

Btw, while I was offline, I created my logo BY MYSELF (see, I do A LOT – now a graphic designer? *hahahah*)  The logo is basically me as a brand – LORNA MABUKU – Picture on the top left

x, L 

 

 

 

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MISS NAMIBIA TIPS

Hi future Miss Namibia contestant 🙂

My name is Lorna Mabuku and I was a top 12 finalist in Miss Namibia (2016). I have been receiving requests on tips/advice from the contestants of 2017 so I thought I would use this platform to reach out to more contestants at once… or as I would like to put it “kill ALL the birds with 1 stone.”

First and foremost, WHY? Why are you entering the pageant? know why you are entering! Want to know why I entered? Here is my story:

Growing up, I knew about Miss Namibia but I never thought I could/would ever enter it. Why? Pageants are not my thing. Also, I did not believe in myself and I always allowed my introvert and reserved nature to hold me back from taking part in many things. The years passed me by and I always looked at the entry form in the newspaper and kept it moving. Miss Namibia was not something I thought about often. I did not even know when exactly the dates were. I just coincidentally saw the entry forms whenever I did.

2016 arrived and once again, that time had come as I paged through a newspaper and saw the Miss Namibia entry form. It was literally then and there that I decided that i was going to do it. I spontaneously decided that i was going to submit an entry form. When I entered Miss Namibia, I did not want to win the pageant. I entered the pageant as a confidence boost. I thought that if I could be brave enough to take part in Miss Namibia, then I could do almost anything and I was correct.

Miss Namibia taught me so much about myself that I never even knew existed. I learned and realized that i truly have so much potential, we all do. I learned about public speaking (which I have feared for the longest time and still do but this helped me in so many ways!!!) I have always admired spoken word poets because of the courage they had to get up on stage and talk. Talk about things that most of us were thinking.  I have aspired to be a spoken word poet for the longest time and had poetry pieces that I never shared as I was terrified. After Miss Namibia, I became a spoken word poet. I would definitely say that the pageant truly gave me the confidence boost I was looking for.  In terms of educating myself, this was an efficient learning process. People ask me what the experience was like and I always say how amazing it was for me. I wanted to learn more about myself and grow and I accomplished that!  My journey was amazing. I am here to help you with yours. (see tips at the bottom)

My Miss Namibia experience, in a nutshell:

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TIPS

  • BE PUNCTUAL AT ALL TIMES! – The judges and your chaperone(s) pay close attention and keep count of this as it plays a huge role.
  • ALWAYS BE PREPARED (hence the help i am offering)
  • PAY ATTENTION! – Things are going to be said and done around you all the time. Pay attention and try to stay in the loop. Talk less, listen more. For example: sometimes there is honestly already an obvious winner who has been chosen beforehand; watch closely.
  • THEY WATCH YOUR EVERY MOVE 🙂 – Be careful what you do once you are in the top 12. Be very cautious with what you do or engage in during the entire duration of the pageant. From what you post on social media etc.
  • DO NOT SEPARATE YOURSELF! – If you were a judge and you had to choose a girl to become the winner of the pageant, would you choose A: only sticks to 1 group of girls or B: gets along and is friendly with all of the girls?
  • BE HUMBLE! (Sit down if you have to) – NOBODY LIKES A MEAN GIRL yet every pageant seems to have one. DON’T BE HER. Please! It is unnecessary. If the pageant is meant for you, nobody can take that away from you. Be kind and humble always.
  • WHICH TYPE OF CHARITY ARE YOU PASSIONATE ABOUT? – Know this already because a lot of the pageant interview questions will be about you, the charity of your choice and of course why you should be the winner.
  • DO NOT MISS A CHALLENGE! – Last year, we had challenges to complete (after being trained for some) such as a top model challenge, a public speaking challenge, a sports challenge, a talent challenge etc. Don’t miss a single one as there will be winners for each of these challenges and there are points at stake.
  • WHY DO YOU THINK YOU SHOULD WIN? – Know this: As Miss Namibia, you are going to be the ambassador of the country therefore it is a huge title to carry. Why YOU?
  • BE UNIQUE – Do not be afraid to be you. Stay true to yourself to some extent. It shows when you are TRYING to be somebody else.
  • LEARN FROM YOUR FELLOW CONTESTANTS – As the old saying goes “2 heads are better than 1” learn from your peers during the pageant. Pay attention, ask questions and listen. Especially once you all have moved into the hotel the week before the pageant. Study possible interview questions together in a designated room. Our room (with my roomie) used to be the study room. All the girls that wanted to study would come over to our room and we would all go over possible questions together and share information and different views. Some nights, we would stay up until 3 in the morning. It is important to be knowledgeable, educated and up to date.
  • MAKE FRIENDS – Yes this is a competition but you still need friends. You find some girls who are nice and you could even be friends with after the crowning night. I made so many new friends. You also find girls who are not there to make long term friends, this is OKAY!
  • HAVE FUN!!!! – This might sound crazy but on the crowning night, i trained my mind to not be nervous and it worked! I was honestly not nervous at all or i didn’t feel the nerves. I had fun with it.

I hope this helped! If you have any further questions. Reach me on Instagram: @lornamabuku

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Red Bull AMAPHIKO – “A platform created for social entrepreneurs”

“Red Bull Amaphiko’s mission is to give wings to pioneers who are using their talents, creativity and energy to solve problems and make a difference”

Amaphiko (Zulu) : Wings.

I am writing this post because:

  1. Many people do not know what social entrepreneurship is (I didn’t either.)
  2. Some people are social entrepreneurs and are seeking help to develop and take it further but do not know of opportunities like Red Bull Amaphiko.

Last Saturday morning I had the privilege of attending the Red Bull Amaphiko social entrepreneurship talk which was hosted at Chopsi’s Bar (Windhoek). It was an amazing, open, conversation about social entrepreneurship and ways in which to join the movement. The set up was super cool and laid back. The morning started off with the invited speaker, Thokoza Mjo (from South Africa) introducing herself and sharing her story on how she became a social entrepreneur with her brand ‘Beyond the Lemonade Stand’ which is her aid in creating access to the market for teen led enterprises. Thokoza’s clear passion is to train the African youth to be economically active. She showed us a slideshow of all the students/youth she has been mentoring. All of them have created innovative ways to generate an income. Some of the youth are only 15 years old!!! WOW.

Pictures from the event:

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What is a social entrepreneur?

Thokoza is a social entrepreneur. I won’t lie, when I heard this term, I was like “a whaaaaa?” She later went on to explain what it is. From what I understood, a social entrepreneur is someone who plans to or owns a business(es) in which the primary objective is to make money ofcourse, but also one which aims at creating sustainability within the community. The point of social entrepreneurship is not to keep all the knowledge to oneself and capitalize on it, but to teach others so that they too may start their own businesses and so forth; It creates and maintains sustainability.

Why social entrepreneurship?

Social entrepreneurship will probably not make you fast money but it will generate money over time and it will help with poverty reduction through the opportunity you will be giving to people in need.

Red Bull Amaphiko academy aims at:

  • Assisting social entrepreneurs who feel the urge and are making positive differences in their communities
  • Providing inspiration, mentorship and practical skills & tools which are needed to heighten social entrepreneurs and the projects they lead
  • Lastly, to be able to network and communicate with leading innovators, businesswomen/men and storytellers across the world.

For more info, head to https://amaphiko.redbull.com/en

OH AND BY THE WAAAAYYY, Red Bull Namibia is finally on Instagram!! Whooooppp!! @redbullnam go folloooowww 🙂

Linking misogyNOIR to fashion

INCLUSION x DIVERSITY

“As women of color, we know fashion items colored as “nude” don’t actually match our skin.”

“In runways to magazine covers, fashion still lags in representing a range of races and ethnicities. There are various reasons why, but one recurring argument is that there aren’t enough people of color being hired behind the scenes, where decisions are made.”

Point of reference: Louboutin’s Solasofia pointed ballet flats

Author, Krissy Turner (April 2016) – http://www.telegraph.co.uk/fashion/news/why-christian-louboutins-nude-shoe-line-is-revolutionary-for-bla/

News of a nude shoe line shouldn’t be controversial, but as the shoes are available in a spectrum of creams, coffees and caramel shades, for women of colour this Solasofia shoe launch is revolutionary.

From shoes to underwear and lipsticks, ‘nude’ has always essentially meant beige or cream, and eliminated my skin tone and millions of others completely. Even a Google search of the word defines it as a ‘pinkish-beige colour.’

‘Nude is not a colour, it’s a concept,’ designer Christian Louboutin said when describing his nude collection. And he’s right. If ‘nude’ is supposed to look natural and fit your complexion perfectly, with underwear merging to look flawless under sheer tops, and shoes which should ‘disappear like magic and become a fluid extension of the legs’ as Louboutin says his new Solasofia pumps do, then why are so many skin tones traditionally left out?

Other brands have also realized that the term ‘nude’ is misleading. A quick search online shows that many other brands including Wonderbra, Undiz and Next, are now calling their previous ‘nude’ shades names like ‘skin’ and ‘neutral,’ but whilst Next now offers ‘chocolate’ and ‘mocha’ which are darker shades of shapewear, most of the other brands remain woefully white. 


Marc Bain – https://qz.com/651734/christian-louboutin-is-making-nude-shoes-to-match-every-skin-tone/

Louboutin explained his decision to expand the nude range in a blog post last year. “I’ve always done a Nude shoe but only using the color beige,” he said. It wasn’t until a team member bluntly stated “beige is not the colour of my skin that he recognized “nude” should be a concept rather than a single shade.

One person took to social media by writing “Louboutin – you guys are the best and the only luxury brand that does this. They may ‘only’ be shoes but you’re making a difference by designing and retailing inclusiveness and diversity.


Lorna Mabuku’s thoughts

Yet again, the hatred of black women is evident; black women are always excluded, and it never seems to matter. *sigh* misogyNOIR

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misogyNOIR vs. AFRIKA-misogyny

In order to understand misogynoir, one must first understand the term ‘misogyny’

Disclaimer! The excerpts below are not the words of the author. Go to ‘Lorna Mabuku’s thoughts’ to see my review and thoughts on the topic.

Misogyny (dictionary.com) hatred, dislike, or mistrust of women, or prejudice against women.

Misogynoir (contributors: Eliza Anyangwe – theguardian.com, urbandictionary.com)

The term is a combination of the English word ‘misogyny’ and French word ‘noir’ (meaning black).

“London nightclub Dstrkt was accused of turning away two young black women for being ‘too fat’ and ‘too dark’, prompting a swift, strident response on social media. The club was quick to deny the allegations and the council equally quick to express its concern. News outlets went into overdrive, to find “voices” to give the incident context. DJ Edward Adoo discussed the pervasive racism of London’s nightclubs as a matter of fact… What is alleged to have happened at Dstrkt isn’t just about race; the accused promoter is black. It’s about gender too. Discrimination, prejudice and unchecked fear aimed specifically at black women now has a name: misogynoir.”

The term was coined in 2010 by gay black feminist American academic Moya Bailey, who defined it “to describe the particular brand of hatred directed at black women in American visual and popular culture”. Since then black women – and some men – predominantly on social media, have taken ownership of the term, using it to describe prejudice experienced in a range of contexts.

“Misogynoir provides a racialised nuance that mainstream feminism wasn’t catching,” says black feminist commentator, Feminista Jones. “We are talking about misogyny, yes, but there is a specific misogyny that is aimed at black women and is uniquely detrimental to black women.” She says it is both about racial and gender hatred and can be perpetuated by non-black people and by black men – it is the latter, Jones says, she experienced the most often.

Activists argue that the prejudice against black women is ignored by mainstream feminism. This is why misogyNOIR exists!!

Person #1: Black women are ugly! No wonder black guys never date them!
Person #2: Now I see the misogynoir……


Lorna Mabuku’s thoughts

Misogynoir has always existed and continues to exists in the entire world. I have indeed seen and experienced misogynoir in Namibia and South Africa countless times. I will share 1 encounter with you:

My friend and I were in long street (Cape Town) one evening looking for a place to hang out. We came across the famous African club called “Chez Ntemba” so we walked to the entrance. The bouncer asked us if we got free entry tickets around the corner as there was a black man giving away free tickets for entry into Chez Ntemba. We actually saw the man minutes before, not knowing what he was handing out. He had also seen us as we walked right past him but he did not give us any tickets. As we were talking to the bouncer explaining that the man did not give us tickets, the bouncer said that we should go back to the man and receive our free tickets since the ‘free entry’ passes were about to expire. As we were about to leave the subject and proceed to pay for entry, a young white man behind us in the queue overheard our conversation and in a heated tone, asked “why didn’t he give you tickets. That’s not fair! He gave my friend and i free tickets and we came after you. Come with me, let’s go talk to him. He cannot do that.” So we went with this guy to the (black) man giving the tickets. YOU WOULD NOT BELIEVE WHAT THE MAN TOLD US after we asked him why we did not get tickets. He had the nerve to say “The remaining tickets are for foreigners only” foreigners AKA WHITE. We were in shock that he would say that. That statement angered the young white man we were with even more! He wasn’t entertaining this talk and told the man to give us tickets. The man actually gave them to us!

It was such a shocking experience because, it was not about getting free entry, but more importantly about principle. The man was also black but yet he discriminated against us. It was quite amazing how a stranger saw the injustice and helped the situation even though he did not have to. (Actually, yes. He did have to! When you see an injustice, please do speak on it and help. Never turn a blind eye. Help where you can.)

My question now is, if that young man that helped us was not white, were we still going to get tickets or no? Probably not. MisogyNOIR!!!

I also always wonder how a black guy can say things like “I don’t date black girls” and then have the audacity to back up this stupid statement by saying “it’s just my preference.” MisogyNOIR!!!

AFRIKA-misogyny

Moya Bailey is a genius for coming up with such a term! It is so real for black women. The definition, though, needs to be adjusted from ‘American visual and popular culture’ to WORLD visual and popular culture. I have started to notice that black American feminists are the first ones to call out white American feminists for not including them in mainstream concepts and definitions of feminism. but…. WHAT ABOUT US? African women, especially, are so often excluded in the mainstream conversation surrounding feminism. I am coining a new term: Afrika-misogyny, which is described as “A ‘misogynoir’ feminism branch based on the wordly hatred & exclusion of black African women” (Afrika is the swahili spelling for ‘Africa’.)

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